I gave my husband 2g of shrooms (2g for me too) and we were just going to chill and watch a movie. He has mentioned before that the coming up part always makes him grind his teeth a little. He seemed to handle things well the week prior (same amount) so I thought we were all good. Now, this time he did smoke a little weed beforehand - I don't smoke weed anymore so I honestly don't know what effect it has on shrooms but the first hour he wasn't doing so good.
We were watching Legend (that old fantasy movie with Tom Cruise and Tim Curry) and he kept saying, "Wow this is some nightmare shit." I had forgotten how dark that movie was, to be honest, or I wouldn't have suggested it. Anyway, I could start to see that physically he wasn't doing well and he wasn't sure exactly what was happening. I recognized it as an anxiety attack because I've been dealing with those for years (shrooms really help me with that). He wanted something to help him come off it, but from what I understand, most of these "methods" are junk science and I didn't want to get his hopes up so I was honest in telling him that we're gonna have to ride it out and that it won't take long.
By this point I turned the movie off and let him decide how he wanted to use his space; whether or not he wanted me to hold him or lay on the couch alone. I also coached him through breathing in through the nose and blowing out like through a straw or like he was trying to cool soup. I avoided saying things like "calm down" or "relax" because lord knows what that shit does to me when I have anxiety lol. I also didn't try to coddle him or act overly concerned, which can also make things worse.
I put on some music (Dead Can Dance) and just kept talking. He would ask me questions as I was talking so I know he was focusing on that. I told him about the time I rappelled 10 stories even though I had a fear of heights - I leaned back off the face of the earth went for it and just focused on feeding my rope and getting to the bottom (it was for a class so I wanted that grade + I don't really like to reveal my fears in front of people I hardly know). The girl who went after me freaked out halfway and hung there for an entire hour, crying. She had gotten halfway so she already knew how to do it, she just let her fears stall her. All she had to do was resume the rhythm and her feet would be on the ground in no time (eventually she did get down).
This is where I told my husband that weeks after getting my grade, I started having anxiety attacks about rappelling. I would revisit over and over and over again coming off that mountain but I would have something go wrong with my knots or my harness and I would fall 100ft and go splat. This would plague me for years and I even went to a therapist about it (EFT tapping). It suddenly fucking occurred to me that all I needed to do in my thoughts was to "trust my knots" because I was the one who tied them and that I no longer needed to worry about intrusive thoughts of falling. It was a huge revelation to me and my husband found it helpful as well.
By this time he has calmed down a lot. He was still a bit scatterbrained but he was definitely in a better place. He wanted to finish watching the movie and was able to handle it better lol. I just really liked talking with him for a few hours. I just hated that the front end was so nightmarish for him. I don't think I'll be taking him to meet Gaea anytime soon.
Do you think the weed might have set him off? Or is there something that will make the coming up a little more manageable? I have the opposite effect when the shrooms kick in; I am totally mellowed out.
I just don't want to see him like that again :(