I don't think any good advice would have stuck for me, any advice could even work counterproductively because it would have distracted me from the path I needed to take to come to that conclusion myself.. I am thinking things would have went as they did, no matter what anyone would try to advice me. I also have no regrets, everything, maybe especially the things that were not ideal, has had its purpose, reason and somehow brought me on the path I am on now - it taught me so much. Nothing I will want to change. There are different roads you can walk down, none of them are wrong or are useless. Eventually it makes you see the issues and want to change them.
If I had perfect ideas from the start, I would have still so many ways to make choices that would be 'bad choices' that go against those ideals we have about ourselves - simply because you have to experience those mistakes before you truly know them to be mistakes.
Like this smoking thing, or any other addictive habit, I was imprinted with not wanting to do that, but when I turned 19 life changed and I started smoking anyway - and down the hill I went. So no advice about what I should do and not do could have changed that I think. The circumstances and luck in our lives have more influence than any idea that is in our heads that we believe to be truth. I don't believe we have real control over things in that sense. That would require free will, which I don't believe to be a real thing.
So yeah, I could say a lot of things that I have learnt over the past years, but that will only apply now as real knowledge, not in the past, my younger self could not do anything with that advice.
The biggest one I can think of is that it is important to choose, no matter what, rather than not to choose and run away from responsibility. But then again, I often chose not to choose, so that isn't something I wasn't doing.
Don't worry, you can relax, would be another advice. But I had to go through a lot of worries to see that it is not helpful to worry. Also, I would have become worried about being worried.
I know it's no funny answer, but it is how I think about it.
Edited by RutgerHauer, 11 December 2019 - 09:16 AM.