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#41 wildedibles

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Posted 20 July 2012 - 08:49 AM

Ya us women look for the greatest man out there to have babies with or to help us raise our babies the trust thing is huge when you look at it this way we dont want to be left high and dry to take care of them ourselves it can be done I was a single mom for awhile looking for a guy to help me raise my boys they way I want them raised
A guy that shows me respect one that I can trust lets me know that my boys will grow up with that know how to treat a woman good

#42 Arathu

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Posted 20 July 2012 - 12:24 PM

Ummmm, there are estimated to be over 7 billion humans alive on the planet to date, we are a wildly successful species and animal sexuality (meaning human on human not bestiality) is obviously working just fine. Even with our wars, diseases, degenerative use of environment and resources, etc. etc. we as a species are wildly successful and certainly one of the most environmentally demanding.

Technologically we are also fairly advanced in our terrestrial material sciences and there is ample physical evidence to support such an assessment as a quantitative statement, but from a qualitative view (subjectivity immediately clouds the game horribly) though I find that view likely comes from conditioning and arrogance, myself included in that assessment. We certainly do not seem to learn from out emotional lessons very well at all and passing these things along to the next generation seems to be severely lacking, IMHO.

Emotionally most people are very immature and our society seems to shun this part of us, except of course for commercial exploitation.

From my own view point I have settled on a very comfortable and mutually acceptable monogamy and family life. To use cliche "my wild oats have been sown". Some of what I have done I would not do again, other things were a blast and I wouldn't trade them but are also now in the past. They simply don't fit in with what I desire personally today. I think judging others or even attempting to tell them something like "this will make you super lover and she will forget all others" is doomed to failure. Relationships (beginning with the mind's intimately bound relationship with the body which I have found to be THE correct starting point in healthy emotional development) are far too complex to compartmentalize.

It is my view from experience that most people don't know themselves well enough to engage in multiple deep emotional relationships. To really extract a deeply bonded and emotionally healthy relationship with ourselves and a single partner will take a lifetime of considerable effort and work involving both parties. I think we would do well as a planetary society in evolving by understanding and making deliberate efforts to do so. However, I also see and have experienced great value in the "sowing of wild oats" prior to attempting any such deeply committed and emotionally demanding work as required by a great long term and mutually beneficial relationship. So having multiple sexual partners including same sex and opposite sex encounters are probably healthy things (barring physical, emotional, and mental diseases and all that encompasses). But in that state one must understand that it really is nothing personal and just animal sex for the great fun and pleasure of it (making babies in that activity tends to result in or lead to long term problems for everyone involved meaning society as a whole)

But I think the onset of sexual activity at puberty is literally like the mycelium running out of digestible substrate and so it reverts to fruiting thus ensuring the species continues. Birth control is a damn good thing even though I personally hate raincoats. (this does not mean that comfort or any of the other longer termed "better things" in life come into play) Just as I believe that each of us should engage in vision quests and questioning/reevaluations and etc on a regular basis I believe that sexuality should be included in this. Taboos and calling things "dirty" or "sinful" are at best boundaries that should be used in a semiotic manner for the examination of ones own issues as opposed to useful societal control mechanisms.

Freedom demands first and foremost the utmost in quantity and quality of individual personal responsibility. Freedom means that you and I can and should do anything that we wish or desire to do as long as it does not infringe upon another being's universal rights to do the exact same things. Note I say beings and that opens the doors to great debates of what constitutes beings. None the less I did not say doing this was easy by any means. I refer you to our torrid history for examples. In my view this obviously requires great insight, intelligent deductive reasoning, and self discipline, but quite literally if this were held as our greatest truth and modus operandi a vast majority of our "problems" would be taken care of where they need to be taken care of, starting with NUMBER 1. We know when we are deceiving someone, we know when we are taking from others, we know when we are stepping on others rights, we know when we are hurting feelings including our own, we know instinctively right from wrong (not just what the current world view and social conditioning says is right and wrong)

With all that blathering and spewing forth of out loud thinking I will summarize with at this time in human evolution:
  • I think it best that simple pleasurable animal sex simply for sake of the recreation and joy with multiple partners is best kept out of long term relationships but is valid in a long term monogamous relationship (it is like best if we don't make realtionship commitments)
  • I think that the exploration of the depths of intellectual and emotional relationships certainly involving sex between two consenting humans should be kept to that (make permanent relationship commitments)
  • Both of the above have obvious grey boundaries and resultant ramifications and consiquences
  • Human/sentient psychology will defy explanation and predicablity for the foreseeable future
These are just my current views and will certainly change as I experience more and more but I think my own ongoing examination of ME is the most important thing I can do.

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Posted 20 July 2012 - 01:24 PM

How about mushroom sex? That's very sexy. :shy:

https://mycotopia.ne...-sex-fungi.html

#44 ethnobotanist420

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Posted 20 July 2012 - 01:43 PM

Without getting to writing a novel here my feeling is basically this:

1. We are animalistic creatures=Casual sex or sex with multiple partners or whatever fulfills our animal urge to have sex for pleasure and reproduction.

2. We are extremely social and emotional creatures= A monogamous relationship provides with us with loyalty, trust, emotional support, intimacy and things that will appeal to this side of us.

I think throughout our lives we will have moments when each side takes controll of our minds.
Personaly a monogamous relationship is the way to go for me, It provides all the social and emotional needs as well as the sexual needs... If the two people are open and honest about what they like in bed.

Edited by ethnobotanist420, 20 July 2012 - 01:50 PM.


#45 Alder Logs

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Posted 20 July 2012 - 01:51 PM

I like to think I learn by my mistakes, as well as having a cognizance of my feelings. I made plenty of mistakes, and made them enough times to assess my feelings about them. I had no training and not but a few really crappy teachings about sex. My peers, I would say, were more mislead and fucked up about it than I. With this great start, I did my best to get laid as often as I could, with as many women as would do it.

Then it occurred to me that there was something culture had said to me about hooking up with a mate. Okay, I'll try that. (An old man I met, too late in this life, summed that up well: "never make the same mistake once.") I fucked up and made that one once, which was one time too many. (See the movie: The War Of the Roses.)

After the ill-fated marriage, I went on the prowl, falling back on my original ignorance. But as I got older, I started paying more attention to how I felt, and how my partners acted around our sexual encounters. Words were said about the passions of the moment and how a copulation would not mean anything. These words always wound up looking like lies. One little fuck and my phone would start ringing at all hours, putting the lie to the facilitating words. Casual sex never was, and I knew I did not want commitment for any one roll in the hay, and I'd rather be lonely than the perceived cure for some other person's needs to not be lonely.

The so-called casual sex was not worth the dishonesty, to me anyway. So, many years ago, I left the hunt. As an ADHD veteran with allergies and a generally weak endocrine system, I felt I had some pretty crappy genes to go passing them on. So, I never wanted kids, especially any with the problems I had.

Also having a problematic prostate for pretty much all of my adult life, probably from taking too many strong prescription antihistamines from an early age, my sex drive might not have been an overriding factor with me. I saw many men who would do about anything to get laid. I grew to dislike that trait in my gender, as I highly value honesty. To be honest to myself, and my feelings, and my experience, I long ago, as I put it, left the hunt.

Though it would have been nice to find a woman I could live with, I went too long living alone, enjoying my autonomy, 24/7. I became like my mother, who found life far better without a man for enough time to see she preferred it that way. I like being in my own space, filling only my simple wants and needs. My impact is slight (for an American). It gives me time to selfishly dabble in generosity, which I value about as highly as honesty. I don't see many couples with a footprint less than two of my own, not to mention their view of a necessary basic consumption level once they've bred.

So, I think if people are up to the monosexual lifestyle, it's not a bad choice.

(I bet everyone thought I was kidding.)

Edited by Alder Logs, 20 July 2012 - 02:03 PM.

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#46 shroom_seeker

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Posted 20 July 2012 - 02:15 PM

For me sexy sex usually starts with me going down on my girl, mixing in a lot of finger play wherever i can get 'em in! God i wish i had more hands sometimes! Then it's my turn! (barry white voice) ohh baby :teeth:

** and i hear ya on that flash of white thru the crown chakra McDozd. Sometimes i can feel my higher self connecting with my partners higher self above our bodies, what a feeling

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Posted 20 July 2012 - 04:04 PM

I love my girlfriend and we have a completely oral relationship, sexually. Let me hold her, massage her, love her, adore her, and then worship her with me tongue, forever. I have never been happier than when I bring her such pleasure, which she reciprocates in an equally loving manner. Mmmmmm.....love is grand! As far as "cheaters" go, grow up. Be honest. "Do unto others..."

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Posted 20 July 2012 - 05:42 PM

** and i hear ya on that flash of white thru the crown chakra McDozd. Sometimes i can feel my higher self connecting with my partners higher self above our bodies, what a feeling


Yes sir!

That connection is indescribable.
Being able to open the upper chakras during a sexual encounter is not easy task.
If both people can get there together, that is a love that will stay with you both the rest of your mortal lives.
I'm ranting trying to describe the impossible... lol.
Love and light

#49 ethnobotanist420

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Posted 20 July 2012 - 06:09 PM

Yes sir!

That connection is indescribable.
Being able to open the upper chakras during a sexual encounter is not easy task.
If both people can get there together, that is a love that will stay with you both the rest of your mortal lives.
I'm ranting trying to describe the impossible... lol.
Love and light


you must teach me your ways lol

#50 McDozd

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Posted 20 July 2012 - 06:26 PM

you must teach me your ways lol


Ethno, lol, sup bro.
When I am online I can toss you a few things in chat me and the Missus found.
Honestly, sex and mushrooms.. hands down best teacher for her and me as far as sexual energy exchange.

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#51 wildedibles

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Posted 20 July 2012 - 10:29 PM

I would have to agree with mushrooms and sex and a special partner :) This has helped me and my husband open up too share something special healing lol

I remember a time when me and hubby I think it was the first time trying a tiny bit with a beer or two we were feeling really good and the company left for a tiny bit we decided to be alone and went to our room
well the sex was amazng like our bodys just knew what to do fit together as one
I closed my eyes and just felt the anyway focus lol ... when I closed my eyes everything started all red and tense I say red is my tense color whether it is pain or sexual tension it is red
but at this point half way threw everything was white like there was an explosion I could feel the heat all of a suddon it was sooo hot hubby had to stop like an explosion it was really cool like fire works maybe a nig bomb lol I think there was noise too :lol:

Edited by wildedibles, 20 July 2012 - 10:37 PM.


#52 Akari

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Posted 20 July 2012 - 10:31 PM

I'm glad this is such a fruitful thread. I love Arathu's post, although reading it required some stamina. And you're right on topic August. I plan for this to be an immortal thread. I am it's beginner, but I am not it's steward. I will nudge the conversation here and there, and of course voice my personal opinions, but nothing more.

Let us move on the the more sexy part of the thread. Paraphillia, fetishism, and personal sexual taste. Why are we homosapiens so creative with the sex act?

Fun fact guy, what percentage of the animal kingdom practices oral and anal sex? What percentage engages in homosexual relationships?

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#53 ethnobotanist420

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Posted 20 July 2012 - 10:36 PM


Let us move on the the more sexy part of the thread. Paraphillia, fetishism, and personal sexual taste. Why are we homosapiens so creative with the sex act?

I like where this is headed:eusa_danc

#54 wildedibles

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Posted 21 July 2012 - 01:00 AM

Why are we homosapiens so creative with the sex act?

we get bored that was simple lol I do realize this can be more complicated lol nice turn in conversation :) I not getting into that yet good night hehe hubby is almost sleeping and I am still awake in here reading got to got to bed lol cant turn computer off too much fun stuff to read lol


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Posted 21 July 2012 - 04:58 PM

Okay, I guess I will jump start this then. I am what you would call... hmmm how to say this... a complete pervert.

I like all kinds of weird shit. Feet, bondage, fat chicks, skinny chicks, furry ones too (I do not mean animals). Please forgive my honesty, but that is what this thread is about. I think anuses are sexy. I like to watch chicks pee.

As fucked up as I thought I was as a child, I can actually find porn for all this crazy shit. Which goes to say, at least a million people like to watch chicks pee. Most of these things I am attracted to solely because they are disgusting. I mean, I like to smell stinky feet, and apparently a million others agree. Why are human being so fucked up?

I am gonna stop now before I get banned from this site, but my point has been made. So everyone feel free to share their fucked up shit.

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Posted 21 July 2012 - 06:38 PM

share their fucked up shit.

Hey, there's another fetish right there. I bet there are a few million people into that one, too. (Enter smiley of your choice here)

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Posted 21 July 2012 - 07:14 PM

Hey, there's another fetish right there. I bet there are a few million people into that one, too. (Enter smiley of your choice here)

Um...sorry, I don't get it ... but just for when I do. Hiyo!!! Yes!

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Posted 21 July 2012 - 07:15 PM

I just got it! Hiyo! Yes!

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Posted 21 July 2012 - 07:32 PM

Well to each his/her own is what I'll say about what you like Akari. I find voiding on a person not my cup of tea. Bondage well kinda but maybe I just like it rough sometimes. I don't nor will I think practice S&M and I have I guess a type. It has nothing to do with looks really when I think about it but who again stimulates my mind.

I guess it's typical female talk I dunno seems like there are some really awesome guys in this thread who treat their women right. Fetishes are not wrong at all just not something I'm into. I'm just guilty of back scratching;)

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Posted 21 July 2012 - 09:27 PM

back scratching :) I am trying to thing of a fetish I am not into s and m you hit me Id probably beat u while u slept lol
bondage maybe but I want to much control well many hand cuff him ;)
My hubby is into porn I like to get into that with him I like showing my body off to strangers not friends :)
.... fetish tho something that is weird and gets me going mushrooms hints lol :) the woods gets me happy relaxed but recently mushrooms have been making me extra happy

that hairy little trail on a guy gets me going and seing their hip lines stick out of their pants hummmm like that I always have to squeeze hubbys muscles when I see them stick out
Fetish tho I don't think this counts lol
I love talking with my hubby too sometimes we do not need to talk we understand each other like our higher selves are talking
I would say wild in the woods I like sneaking sex into the woods secluded spots but some where u may get caught ;)
... and can't believe I am adding this but speaking the truth lol where is the blush smiley lol
ummm I like anal hubby has showed me how good this can feel something girls and guys should know about tho ;) I was too shy to be into this b4 my hubby and found clumsy men can just make it hurt done right and enough lube ud be ummm never mind good night lol




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