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#41 Akari

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Posted 25 March 2015 - 03:53 PM

I'm 26. My mistake was being Christian. While I was saving it for marriage, I could've been having crazy sex like my mate. I just don't feel like sex and relationship are exclusive. I just don't feel like that's how the human animal was programmed. No amount of love (and I'm telling you, she's for sure the one) makes my penis not respond to a sexy woman. I don't feel like wanting to have sex with another person should devalue the relationship. I've been trying this for many years. I just feel trapped by life. Everything I love is illegal or socially unacceptable. Who am I living this life for? Scared jealous people. People who are afraid of strange ideas. People who would rather hide in a fucking cave while the rest of the universe goes unexplored?

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Posted 25 March 2015 - 04:05 PM

I'm really starting to feel like monogamy is just not for me


I gathered that by the title and content of your thread friend, lol.

Do whatever you feel you must, as only you can know what is right for you. No one is trying to suppress your sexuality. You asked people for their advice and input, and they gave it to you. There is no reason to be upset just because they didn't tell you what you wanted to hear. No one here is going to be upset if you don't follow their advice.

If your partner is unwilling to do this with you, your not going to be able to force her. A healthy relationship is all about respect and understanding. If she doesn't want to do it, you should respect that. And if you are willing to scrap your relationship to fulfill a fantasy, then you might as well do it, as there wasn't much to the relationship to begin with.
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#43 Akari

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Posted 25 March 2015 - 04:14 PM

I'm not upset with the advice, I am honestly upset that so many peoe feel this way, but it is what it is.

I'm not willing to scrap my relationship for this, but I can't make the desire go away, so what left is there but to repress it. I was hoping more people where less jealous.

To me, sex is like basketball. If you had a best friend, you have an automatic basketball partner. But that person would not stop being your friend if you played basketball with someone else. And they definitely wouldn't mind extra players.

But people want to own their partners. They literally belong to them. Now, my jealousy isn't from her having had threesomes, it's that in have not. And I honestly want to share that part of her.

The thing is she loves me too much, and it scares her. I understand that, but I can't stop myself from feeling like the other people got more of her because of her apprehension to do it with me. Does that make since. She says give her time. And I guess a years not long enough, but it's hard to wait because I feel like I'm missing out until this happens.

#44 Akari

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Posted 25 March 2015 - 04:18 PM

Allow me to use a particularly terrible metaphor here.

I've always wanted to go to China. Now I've married someone who has been to China. She's been to Antarctica. (She's had an 8some). But now that she's with me, she loves me too much to let me get on a plane. Which is something I can only understand. Not really agree with. I really want to go to China. BAD! She's a goddamn tour guide.

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Posted 25 March 2015 - 04:26 PM

Look, she's done with them before. I wouldn't care about time management. that's half the point, to watch her with a girl. I don't know. Maybe this life just ain't for me. Just stick to expensive porn, and live my whole life with a hidden animosity for my lover? I guess that works for everybody else huh?

I think you may have ruined the moment by talking so much about it. If you left it alone it very well have happened organically. But you have exhausted any

 

chance of it ever happening with your Love. I have to quote you on something here I won't be jealous at all. I'm only jealous because I have NOT been part of

 

the experience. Did you read those two sentences this time. Very unfair. I feel bad that your brain does that. I won't be jealous at all. I'm only jealous because I

 

have NOT been part of the experience. Did you read those two sentences this time. I am jealous  I am jealous I will continue to be jealous until I decide to

 

NOT be jealous but only someone other then myself is in control of my emotions ...What now you've givin all your power away and all your happiness.

 

controlled by someone other then yourself and you are making the two of you sick over the smallest tiniest littlest balahp.

 

 

BTW I liked the idea of threesomes when I saw the thread name, but now..... Eeedaggzzz I chose to emotionally drain myself to hopefully open your eyes that

 

you are only driving yourself crazy. She lived that and doesn't want it again, and your being to closed minded to see that's LOVE. She LOVES YOU ENOUGH

 

TO NOT DO SOMETHING TO EVEN CHANCE LOSING YOU. Poor girl loses either way, with the argument you throw up. I think there are a lot worse things

 

then throwing a fit because someone Loves you enough to sit next to you and listen to the sentences "I won't be jealous at all. I'm only jealous because I have

 

NOT been part of the experience." "live my whole life with a hidden animosity for my lover? I guess that works for everybody else huh?"

 

I don't understand why if she doesn't do this one thing then your whole life has to be shoved into a little expensive box!?!???? That sounds like a ultimatum.

 

YUCK. LIFE is way to expansive for one way or the other. "I guess that works for everybody else huh?" NO it doesn't work.. Do you need to find that out the

 

hard way too.

 

I say this with as much patience I can muster but also with Love. Please don't go down like that. It's really not that important. Open your eyes to a different

 

new fresh perspective. You may have to swallow a little pride here and there. But that is how it works for everybody else.


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Posted 25 March 2015 - 04:35 PM

 seem to work better with another lady who is mostly into ladies. It becomes weird in a hurry if your third wheel doesn't really dig on your lady.

I personally know a Family that had a lesbian come in as they're third. YUP, she left him. The new Family is his daughter, Mom, and the lady who is mostly into other ladies. He's was pretty lonely after that, now I just don't see him. The Woman however are living happily ever after.


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Posted 25 March 2015 - 04:37 PM

Stoned Angel hit the nail squarely on the head.

For fear of saying anything more when I may not have anything nice to say....

I'm out of this thread lol

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Posted 25 March 2015 - 04:46 PM

If everybody else is wrong and you are right....isn't it time to look again. I call everyone asshole. This guy that girl everyone. They're all jerks and don't won't will never understand. Maybe maybe it's not everyone else. Time for you to look at this differently. Would you let your Wife see this thread? I'd like to hear from this lady. Man you've got me all worked up. I think it's because I feel badly about the situation I see that doesn't even need to exist. You've created a drama monster, and it's only getting bigger, and will continue to until you get a healthy perspective and it bothers me that your so far off the grid. so so very far. I have a hand out to catch if you'd like, cos this misery is not necessary. Don't ruin your Happiness because of a piece of flesh that dangles and wangles.


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#49 Akari

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Posted 25 March 2015 - 04:48 PM

Well....thank you Stoned Angel. I understand.
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Posted 25 March 2015 - 04:55 PM

If everybody else is wrong and you are right....isn't it time to look again. I call everyone asshole. This guy that girl everyone. They're all jerks and don't won't will never understand. Maybe maybe it's not everyone else. Time for you to look at this differently. Would you let your Wife see this thread? I'd like to hear from this lady. Man you've got me all worked up. I think it's because I feel badly about the situation I see that doesn't even need to exist. You've created a drama monster, and it's only getting bigger, and will continue to until you get a healthy perspective and it bothers me that your so far off the grid. so so very far. I have a hand out to catch if you'd like, cos this misery is not necessary. Don't ruin your Happiness because of a piece of flesh that dangles and wangles.

I nominate this for post of the year. 


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#51 Akari

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Posted 25 March 2015 - 05:01 PM

I really just don't know how to deal with the pent up sexual energy.

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Posted 25 March 2015 - 05:04 PM

I'm insane. I get that.

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Posted 25 March 2015 - 05:05 PM

uh, grow mushrooms! duh.

 

 

 

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Posted 25 March 2015 - 05:12 PM

Get as freaky as you want man. Sex shouldn't be boring and plenty of fun can be had without bringing someone else in. If her past threesomes wouldn't have ruined relationships she would still be in one of them.
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#55 Akari

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Posted 25 March 2015 - 05:12 PM

Just so you know. I REALLY love you guys.
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Posted 25 March 2015 - 05:20 PM

Oh. I guess its worth mentioning, our sex is absolutely fucking stellar!

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Posted 25 March 2015 - 05:22 PM

DMT is better than threesomes anyway.
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Posted 25 March 2015 - 05:32 PM

If everybody else is wrong and you are right....isn't it time to look again. I call everyone asshole. This guy that girl everyone. They're all jerks and don't won't will never understand. Maybe maybe it's not everyone else. Time for you to look at this differently. Would you let your Wife see this thread? I'd like to hear from this lady. Man you've got me all worked up. I think it's because I feel badly about the situation I see that doesn't even need to exist. You've created a drama monster, and it's only getting bigger, and will continue to until you get a healthy perspective and it bothers me that your so far off the grid. so so very far. I have a hand out to catch if you'd like, cos this misery is not necessary. Don't ruin your Happiness because of a piece of flesh that dangles and wangles.

 
 

Get as freaky as you want man. Sex shouldn't be boring and plenty of fun can be had without bringing someone else in. If her past threesomes wouldn't have ruined relationships she would still be in one of them.


I am regrettably out of likes. But I wanted to show my agreement with the above posts.

Lots of love and light to both the Doc, and Angel. Good, solid, and frank advice given right there. (and that's not my dangle wangle talking either, Angel :blush:)

 

Love, light, and out of here.

Juth
 


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Posted 25 March 2015 - 05:54 PM

A lot of really good advice here that you clearly do not want to hear.

 

 

I would like to add, you are acting like a child and that's your main issue...


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Posted 25 March 2015 - 06:10 PM

is it weird that I have an erection?

 

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